Career Advice: Coaching By Cath

How To Develop Authentic Confidence When You're Applying For A New Job
01/06/2012 None

There are a lot of powerful techniques available for pumping up your confidence when you're looking to make a big change, like a change of job, but I'm a big believer in the idea that confidence and competence should be developed in equal amounts, to avoid becoming the vessel that's all sail and no rudder.

The following exercise is a shortened version of a process I've found useful for developing authentic confidence. (You can download the recording from a teleclass called, "How to Grow Through Fear,"where I used this process). So grab a pen and start coaching yourself!

Coach Yourself To Authentic Confidence
Start by listing a fear that you have in relation to applying for this new job or changing your work - something you want to feel calmer and more confident about.

Now ask yourself, "What's the worst that could happen if things didn't work out as I'd like? What's the worst case scenario that I'm afraid of?" And write that down. Write down all those crazy catastrophizing thoughts you've had rattling around in the back of your mind. And once you've written those down, ask yourself a few times, "And why would that be a terrible outcome? What would happen then?"

  • Start by listing a fear that you have in relation to applying for this new job or changing your work - something you want to feel calmer and more confident about.
  • Now ask yourself, "What's the worst that could happen if things didn't work out as I'd like? What's the worst case scenario that I'm afraid of?" And write that down. Write down all those crazy catastrophizing thoughts you've had rattling around in the back of your mind. And once you've written those down, ask yourself a few times, "And why would that be a terrible outcome? What would happen then?"
  • Now ask yourself, "Have I got the resources to deal with this situation if this worst-case scenario happened?" It doesn't matter whether you answer yes or no. Just give yourself an honest answer.
  • Now ask yourself, "What are some difficult situations that I've survived?" And what resources did I use to survive those situations?
  • And then ask yourself, "Who do I know who's survived my worst-case scenario or worse?" It can be people you know well or someone you have just heard of. What resources did they use to get through those situations?
  • And then ask yourself, "Are there any resources I feel I'm still needing to develop more of, in order to feel confident and healthy fear, instead of stress? If so, what resources do you have, to help you access or develop those resources you feel you still need?
  • Knowing that you have all the resources you need - and certainly all the resources to access or develop the resources you need, what's the next step you'd like to take towards applying for that new job or making that career change?

What's it like now, when you hold these resources in mind and you think of applying for that new job or making that career change? How's it different now?
When you tune back into your resourcefulness and develop authentic confidence, you don't have to use hype or practice coming up with good answers to interview questions. You can relax in the knowledge that you have all the resources you need to thrive in your new job, and let that authentic confidence shine through naturally.

Author: Cath Duncan

Cath DuncanCath Duncan is a life and leadership coach and CareerJunction's resident Career Coach. Through one-to-one coaching and projects like the Bottom-line Bookclub, Cath helps people learn the Agile Living Strategies for thriving at work in this high-change era.

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